Diane E. at Letter from Gotham adds that, while it is true that there are a lot more men than women writing blogs, the bigger problem is that there's an enormous "double standard" in how seriously ideas are taken:
Whatever certain male bloggers say is accepted and worthy of the blogosphere richochet; whereas if a woman were to say it, it would have been dismissed or ignored. And -- when a woman speaks with knowledge on a subject, using logic and evidence, she is ignored.
She offers as an example the fact that Steven den Beste is much more widely linked to than she is, even though she is more knowledgeable and a better writer. (Immodest, maybe, but undeniably true. I disagree with her most of the time, but she is a first-rate writer.)
Ampersand adds some interesting non-blog related research on scientific credit and job applications that lends credence to what Diane E. says: Men's accomplishments seem to get more credit than equal accomplishments by women.
Reading all this as an abstract argument, I'd have to agree that there seems to be rampant sexism on the Web. And why should that be surprising? Why would anyone expect the virtual world to be more just than the real world?
But a funny thing happened to me on the way to that conclusion. I ran smack into myself. Ampersand uses the "paucity of links" to my blog, in comparison to "many less thoughtful and interesting blogs" to demonstrate the same kind of sexism existing on the left.
I'm pretty clueless about links, and I don't care about them as much as many people seem to, but I don't think that's true. I admit this is not a normal day, but the idea that I'm not widely linked to struck me a little funny this morning because I had almost 900 visitors to this site yesterday, primarily because of some "big" links -- mainly from Atrios. And I've had more than 3000 visitors this week because of a variety of other links -- all of them, with the exception of one from Avedon Carol, from men. I have no idea how many people go to other sites, but that's significantly more than my usual numbers, and to me it seems like a whole lot of people. I've published stories in some literary journals that have fewer than 900 subscribers.
Maybe there's a lot more sexism over on the right (no surprise there), but a lot of men with blogs have been extremely generous in their links to me and quite a few have written me nice, encouraging e-mails over the three months that I've been writing this blog. Believe me -- and this is coming from a woman who has identified herself as a feminist since she was sixteen -- if the left-wing male bloggers made up the powers-that-be, the world would be a better and more just place.
I'm not remotely dissatisfied with the number of links I've gotten. If anything, in fact, I've been stunned by the number of people who come here regularly. I started writing this blog in June, more or less on a whim, and with no intention of aiming for an audience. For years, I've been in the habit of getting up very early and writing. It started when I was nursing my son (who is about to go off to college) and couldn't get back to sleep after the 4 a.m. feeding. Figuring I might as well make use of the time, I started writing in a journal, writing whatever vague and random thoughts came to mind. Some of it was political, some spiritual, some personal, some off-the-wall, and a lot -- and this was the category that always interested me most -- was an unclassifiable mixture of the four. Some of those scribblings developed into short stories that I published. But most of it stayed in my notebooks. Thousands of pages, literally, of stuff that didn't seem to fall into any category. For years, I've thought that a lot of the "stuff" in my notebooks was as interesting as any of my stories, but unfortunately wasn't remotely publishable.
Writing "Body and Soul" gave me another way of journal writing. I knew it was public, in a way, but for quite a while I didn't believe anyone was really looking at it. But little by little other bloggers started linking to me. Every time they did, my stats would shoot up for a day or two, then settle back to normal. But I noticed that "normal" kept getting higher and higher. Each time someone big linked to me, new people found me, and some of them -- for reasons I have yet to fathom -- kept coming back.
The point is, I guess, that I'm doing this mostly for myself, and anyone else who wants to venture in and join a kind of mental and spiritual journey (I apologize if that sounds terribly Californian, but stay with me -- I promise not to mention yoga or granola). Every once in awhile I write something of interest to people who aren't really part of my journey from idea to idea, and if they come for a day and don't come back until someone tells them to, that's fine. I'm not going to do anything different just to draw those people in.
Ampersand described my blog as "thoughtful," Thank you -- I think that's a good description. Lots of thoughts. Many incoherent, but thoughts nonetheless. And "thoughtful" in the other meaning of the word as well -- I care a great deal about kindness and politeness. I have no desire to pick fights with anyone, and I won't bother to respond if someone tries to pick a fight with me (a few people have tried) -- I regard it as the blogging equivalent of panhassling. I understand that fights drive up the numbers, and I don't care.
If I have fewer links than some other people, I suspect thoughtfulness has more to do with it than my gender. There are many other blogs written by men -- Alas, a blog among them -- that don't seem to be linked to as often as they deserve to be. Among them are many first-rate writers: Yuval Rubinstein, for example, Dominion, Sam Heldman, and Joseph Duemer. Gender has nothing to do with it. Thought and reason can be a disadvantage among bloggers, if you're looking for numbers. But I suspect none of these people care much about it anymore than I do. Perhaps that's a stereotypically "feminine" trait, but it's one plenty of wonderful men share.

